13th May - This is the happiest I've felt



Don't get me wrong... We all have moments of euphoria, right? A few years ago, I mused on the meaning of life, and my conclusion was in fact, entirely that.. "The never-ending surge of euphoric moments". We lurch through daily life, one mundane feature after the next, waiting for the next glowing gold dot in our calendar, a festival, a holiday, something which can give us that tantalising almost orgasmic-jolt of happiness. Fingertips outstretched, looking up to the sky, and allowing the grin etched across your face to grow in unison with the shivers which cover your skin. Without those things to look forward to, life feels meaningless. 

But I listened to an interview with Mark Manson, yesterday. Mark is the author of the best-selling book, 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck'. He mused that those 'moments' can be described as 'euphoria', but actually, what you need for a great life, is not euphoria, but happiness, and that the two are entirely different. Happiness, in his opinion, is what I myself would probably describe as being 'content'. The surroundings of your daily life. Whether that's work, your relationship, your family/friends. Your general orbit, essentially. 




With that in mind, I truly believe this is probably the most 'content', or 'happy' if you like, I've ever felt. This moment in time sees me blessed with health (as far as I'm aware), and good relations with those around me. Work is good, and so is my financial and social situation. There's much to look forward to in the months ahead, and still so many things I'm working on which I haven't even told a soul about yet, but will prove fruits of the labour to those around me as time wears on, and seeing the impact of those things is something which really excites me. For the first time in a long time, I think, with regard to each and every sector of my life, I've got this shit nailed down. I'm on top of it all, and I'm the master of my own destiny, my future, and my happiness. Or at least I was, until that shit-show at the Toilet Bowl stadium last night. 

But even that, something which hammered my mood into the ground like a tent peg last night, is a situation where I've managed to sleep on it, and wake up today with renewed and refreshed optimism. If Arsenal win the final two games of their season, what Tottenham do is irrelevant. I've learned that about life too. As long as you focus on your own happiness, and everything inside your control, all the external contributors which float around on the outer rims of it all, are irrelevant. This is the happiest I've felt...




... Now do your job, Mikel Arteta, and we'll all feel happy together. 



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